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G spot: The Basic Idea 2007-04-05 08:59:00 For many women this type of vaginal penetration can be physically and emotionally intense; it isn't the sort of play most folks would want to leap into immediately after taking their clothes off. If you think of sex as being like a feast, you should probably think of the things this article will talk about as being the "main course." So... Start out by kissing and stroking and teasing each other until you two can't stand it any more (many women find that vaginal penetration and G-spot play feel especially good after a lot of cunnilingus. When the two of you get to the point where a little penetration starts to sound nice, grab your bottle of water-based lube, apply it liberally to your "insertive" hand, wait for it to heat up to near body temperature (unless you had placed your lube bottle in a bowl of warm water to keep it warm), and slowly (teasingly?) insert your first two fingers into your lover's vagina. At this point, many couples like to alternate between patterns such as th
Erotic Talk 2007-04-05 08:56:00 Previews of Coming Attractions This idea is to build anticipation for your next encounter by tantalizing your partner with some of the details of what you would like to do with him or her. This is especially fun if you use sensual and erotic language, hint at a surprise or two, and let your voice express your passion for your partner. Many people in long-term relationships "have overcome sagging sexual interest and recaptured the thrill of their early courtship by adding this dimension to their lovemaking." These "previews" can be made even more fun if you give them while touching or teasing your partner, or perhaps while brushing his or her hair or taking a bath or shower together. The bath idea: For instance, as you soap up your partner's breasts, you might say: "Hmmmm, what can I do with these the next time to make them feel even more wonderful?" Or, washing your lover's cock, you might ask: "When we're in bed next time, would you like me to begin with long, slow strokes like thi Read more:Erotic
Expanding Your Definition of Sex 2007-04-04 10:52:00 This can be quite liberating. Spend an evening kissing passionately and running your hands over each other, and call it sex. Spend an evening giving each other erotic massage and (whether or not anyone had an orgasm) call it sex. Spend an evening blindfolding your lover and running various tantalizing objects over his or her skin, and call it sex.The point is that nobody is served by getting "goal oriented" about something that's supposed to be fun. Sex is just how adults play and have a good time together, and you'll probably have a better time the more you think of it that way."Anything that involves sex is erotic...but in erotic everything is in the mind..."
Creating an Inviting Space for Your Lover(s) 2007-04-04 10:51:00 Taking the time to make your space inviting is a good way to let someone know you appreciate them and value having sex with them. Sex is almost always better by candlelight. Turning off the ringers on your phones or pagers is another nice touch, as is setting a nice CD on repeat play. Keeping a towel, a bottle of water, and maybe a warm wet washcloth handy is also a good idea. Keep the room temperature on the warm side.Another thoughtful thing you can do is keep everything you need within easy reach, so you don't have to interrupt sex while you fumble around for your lube, a soft mitten, a condom, or whatever. Laying out the things you might use or else keeping them all in a drawer by your bed (being sure you can identify everything by touch) will go a long way towards helping you and your partner feel better about both toys and any safer sex precautions you deem necessary."Anything that involves sex is erotic...but in erotic everything is in the mind..."
Empathy 2007-04-04 10:50:00 EmpathyIt's usually natural to want to reflect pleasure and energy back to your partner.When pleasuring your partner, try to get inside their head and imagine what they would like. As you gain experience with them, you can eventually learn what they like (everyone is a little different, after all). The ultimate goal is to be able to key your arousal into theirs, so the more turned on they get the more turned on you get. In my opinion, the easiest way to reach this place is to imagine YOU are experiencing whatever you are doing to THEM.As a thought experiment, imagine someone is performing oral sex on you. For a few seconds, imagine that they're going through the motions purely mechanically. Then, imagine exactly the same technique done by someone who is obviously aroused, ecstatic with pleasure, and possibly masturbating while they're pleasuring you. Makes a difference, doesn't it? Like "learning to feel" and "choosing what pleases you," empathy is a win-win situation."Anything tha
WWL (What Women Like) or Guide to a better sex 2007-04-04 10:44:00 For me, having two fingers inside from someone I love is one of the most wonderfully intimate activities on the planet. With some of my male lovers, this form of sex seems to have been enhanced through conscious stimulation of the so-called "G-spot." Over time, several of my friends have commented that it would be nice to write down some of the things that can help make G-spot play fun, and this article is our collaborative result. It should go without saying that every woman is different, and that you should pay attention to what feels good for the unique person you are with: if anything in this guide conflicts with what your partner knows or thinks would feel good for her, then go with her suggestions rather than mine. Good communication really IS the cornerstone of terrific sex, after all... Preparing Your Hands If you absolutely must have long fingernails for fashion reasons, then you'll probably want to put cotton balls around them and don latex gloves before doing any penetrati
About myself 2007-04-01 10:11:00 As I posted this morning in my blog Woip : Out of 50 millions blogs 90% are personal journals. Journalism blogging style is more a description of one's daily life than a reporting of news...I will follow my kind of personalization of my Media, which is my Erotic Blog and talk about myself.Everybody can write but only a few people can read and that makes the job a shade more difficult. So this post of today is directed to people who CAN read.My husband is German.And that has a lot to do with my life.Because living with a German is something you do not understand unless you actually marry one.Somebody told me that Austrians are even more peculiar.I am sorry that, due to my age, I won't be able to see the truth in it.Germans, among Europeans are a Breed that aims to make itself in the Top position.I do not know if this is heritage of the "Fall of the Roman Empire Age" or they are born with this feature.Anyway what a German learns in school is that everything he does must be perfect and
How to Romance the Woman You Love 2007-04-01 09:25:00 It's the little things, at unexpected times, that can keep your relationship warm and affectionate without causing either of you more stress.People love complements, and being asked about themselves: Sweet-talk subjects include anything sensual: music, art, literature (especially erotic or sensual literature), food and wine, nature, colors, fabrics, and sex. Most importantly, sweet talk is about your partner.... Use a soft, low voice. Use passionate words that tell her that you want her. Keep the focus on her. Tell her wonderful things about her body - the way it looks, the way it smells, the way it reacts to your touch. Tell her how you want to make love to her. Whisper words that make you feel that you are enjoying every moment with her. Stay in the present. Don't talk about past or future. Don't think about past or future."Anything that involves sex is erotic...but in erotic everything is in the mind..." Read more:Love, Romance
A Guide to swinging three 2007-03-31 10:14:00 The problem is -- swinging is a lifestyle, it is not just for sex. If you go to a dance for sex, good luck. If you go to a dance to open your mind to a different type of sharing and openness you may get lucky. Don't Ever try and compete against the husbandNever stare or gawkBring up sex Do Learn to become a good listenerMake connections for next timeBring up common interest House Party"Anything that involves sex is erotic...but in erotic everything is in the mind..."
WWW What Women Want THREE 2007-03-31 10:06:00 Tantra reminds us of the spiritual basis of our longing for love, while recognizing that it's also essential to remember that we are embodied beings. We have loving, erotic, pleasure-receptive bodies. To give and receive love through our bodies is part of our essential nature, it is what we want and need as infants, as children, and as men and women. So whether we're talking gentle, nurturing touch or ecstatic sexual play, for most of us, it is only when this basic human need for energetic connection, and for bodily contact and pleasure is met that we can relax and internally be at peace. It is the denial of pleasure and especially sexual pleasure, that has been the primary tool used by the patriarchy to maintain control. This has been achieved by forcefully training women to turn off sexually which then creates a scarcity of sexual plea sure for men as well. Fortunately, it's possible for women to reclaim our erotic power. Tantra offers us a process for healing and re-education, th
WWW (What Women Want) TWO 2007-03-30 09:34:00 It's popular now to talk about replacing dominator models for relationship with partnership models. But in the early 70's in Berkeley the language of women's liberation was in vogue. The meaning, however, is pretty much the same. We must recognize that in patriarchal culture, women are the underclass. We are the indigineous people within, inside of, Western civilization. In my 20's I was mainly aware of how women -- and men -- were suffering as a result of the second class status of women in our society. And I was angry. Now I am able to see beyond the suffering, to the value, the good fortune in this. Because as women, who don't really count in patriarchal society, we remain a little closer to our true nature than the men who have been charged with setting the standards and with enforcing the values of patriarchy. And the primary value of patriarchy is production. The work ethic. Control and domination. (I'm talking patriarchy here, not blaming men. Patriarchy is simply a word d
WWW (WhatWomenWant) 2007-03-29 12:37:00 I've been reading about what women really want, according to prominent psychologists such as Sigmund Freud and the late Timothy Leary, since I was an undergraduate at UC Berkeley in the early seventies. How presumptuous, I thought, for men to write about what women want. I can not pretend to speak for all women, but I can tell you a bit about who I am and what I want for myself as a woman. I am a child of the sixties. As a teenager I marched against the war in Vietnam, took acid, had lots of lovers, and went to Woodstock. When I was 20 I became pregnant while using a Dalkon shield and decided to become a mother. Within a year I'd been transformed into a crusader for women's rights and decided to become a clinical psychologist in service of this goal. Looking back, I realize it was no coincidence that I became sensitive to women's issues after my own experiences with pregnancy, birth, marriage, divorce, and motherhood. Then, as now, the bottom line is equal rights for women. I saw,
Erotic Massage Thirteen 2007-03-29 12:04:00 COCKUPRESSUREWith one hand pull the shaft's skin toward the base and wrap the fingers of this hand around the base to act as a living cock ring. Using the other hand, rhythmically pick various points along the shaft of the penis and squeeze opposite sides of the penile shaft at these points, releasing pressure either immediately or after only a brief period of time. FIRERub the penis between both palms, as if rubbing two sticks together to create fire. Be sure to use plenty of oil. HAIRY PALM SUNDAYHold the penis in one hand with the head sticking up. Using the well-oiled palm of your other hand, slowly and sensitively massage the head of the penis. Reverse directions every once in a while. HEALING STROKEWith the penis resting on the belly, the hand closest to the feet cups the balls. The heel of the palm of the other hand glides up and down the underside of the penis. TWIST AND SHOUTPull the skin of the penis toward the base with one hand. With the other hand corkscrew the penis. Thi Read more:Erotic, Massage, Erotic Massage
A GUIDE TO SWINGING TWO 2007-03-29 10:53:00 What are the demographics of a swinger? We don't think there is any formal studies, but our guess the average age would be mid thirties, married for several years, upper middle class, lives in the suburbs, and white but open minded to all races. We can guess, maybe 100,000 couples consider themselves as active swingers. How do people get into swinging? We found it was mostly the husband idea, but it the wife who keeps them cuming back for more. Most people found ads in the paper about swing clubs or found swinger magazines at the local adult book store. About 10 percent of the couples (we encountered) had sex with a close friend and from there became active swingers. Bisexual? More women are bisexual then strait, most guys are strait. How do you persuade your wife to try it? You don't, you may talk her into going to a few dances but you never put pressure on her to have sex with anybody. How do I bring up the subject of swinging to your spouse? Try reading penthouse letters, reading
Erotic Massage Twelve 2007-03-28 14:39:00 Simultaneous PleasuringOnce each partner has sufficient experience with his or her own sexual response, they may wish to try mutual stimulation. This is best done on a bed, rather than on a massage table. Simply lie down facing each other, heads close together, and pleasure each other with your hands. Again, for men slightly pulling away or giving some other cue when ejaculation is imminent will allow play to continue. Using the "Extra Hand"Some male genital massage strokes require only one hand. Here are some suggestions for things you can do with the "extra hand": Massage the legs or chest. Tease the nipples or other erogenous zones (note: "connections" can be made between erotic arousal and almost any part of the body, by linking stimulation of the genitals with stimulation of this area). Rub the perineum, possibly with an oiled fist or several fingers. For some men, this may stimulate the prostate gland. Wrap an index finger and thumb around the penis between the balls and the bo Read more:Erotic, Erotic Massage
GUIDE TO SWINGING ONE 2007-03-28 14:34:00 We would like to share some of our experiences of 6 years of swinging. First we would like share what we feel "Swinging" is: For us it is Sharing. Even though we had one night stands with other couples, we try to become friend's first.We never swing on our first meeting (except for a few times). Remember -- it's hard for two people to connect, much less four. You've heard the old saying 2's company 3s is a crowd, well the same rule applies in swinging, except for it is 4's company and 6s is a crowd. If you are just starting, you may want to find that special couple via clubs, personals, or on-line services. Before you start, you should talk it over. Swinging will not make a bad relationship better, but it can make a good relationship great."Anything that involves sex is erotic...but in erotic everything is in the mind..."
Conversation with a "pervert" 2007-03-28 14:32:00 That's a fine dress.Yes, I wear them short and I like soft fabrics that sort of swirl around me.I can see you're not wearing underwear.Hmmm, I don't suppose that's illegal here or anything?No. You've nice nipples. Thanks. You don't think it's too short? The skirt I mean.You mean do I see anything?Well, I mean you can see my legs. Here, if I stand up, does it make you think that if the slightest wind comes, you'd see my pussy?Your legs are so long. Yes, it's almost as if I should be able to see it. Do you shave it?I leave a small triangle so when the wind presses the dress to me you can see the impression of my pussy hair in relief. See what happens when I pull it tight? It drives people crazy.People? Not just men?People. Right."Anything that involves sex is erotic...but in erotic everything is in the mind..."
She was tall, taller than me... 2007-03-28 14:27:00 She was tall. Taller than me. She had dark hair usually pulled back tight against her scalp. Her skin was the color of the olives, and it glistened with tiny speckles of sweat. Her high cheekbones and big almond eyes made her look Spanish, proud and strong like a flamenco dancer. And she had the legs for it too.She stood with her hands on her hips and looked at me for a long time. She had left the top three buttons of her blouse undone, and I watched her heavy breasts heave with each gulp of the stifling air. A droplet of perspiration begin at her neck and slide down between her breasts. She noticed me gaping and ran her hand down her blouse as if to spread the moisture over herself."Vieni!" she ordered, finally holding the door open for me. She didn't leave much room to squeeze past and her breasts bumped softly across my body as I made my way into the small entry..."Anything that involves sex is erotic...but in erotic everything is in the mind..."
Choosing What Pleases You 2007-03-27 13:22:00 You already know how to make yourself feel good through self-pleasuring. In theory, sex with a partner could feel this good too. Often, what holds us back are concerns about what our partner would think if we were to offer suggestions; therefore, instead of "Oh wow that feels good oh yeah oh yeah," what goes through our mind is "That would feel so much better if it were just a bit to the right," or "God, I wish he would have kept doing that," etc. This is a pity, as most people like to see their partners experience pleasure and would happily go along with whatever sort of advice they might have to offer.The best way to get rid of bad habits is to replace them with new ones. So, this exercise needs to be done with a partner. Tell him or her that you're trying to undo some bad habits, and ask if he or she would be willing to make love to you with the understanding that you're going to speak up every time you can think of a way in which what is happening could feel better to you. Puttin
Erotic Massage Eleven 2007-03-27 13:20:00 Incorporating PC Muscle Contractions ("Kegels")Contractions of the PC (pubococcygeus) muscle are associated with increased sexual pleasure for both men and women. This muscle may be identified by noticing what muscles you use to stop the flow of urine when you are urinating (without moving your torso or legs); it's the same one. The PC muscle can be exercised by contracting and releasing it; one approach is to rhythmically contract when inhaling and relax when exhaling. Generally, the stronger the PC muscle is, the more intense one's orgasms can be. The PC muscle can also be repeatedly contracted and relaxed at various times during sex (such as during G-Spot stimulation, or during male ejaculation) to increase pleasure. Men can use the PC muscle to prevent ejaculation; this is done by holding the breath while either strongly bearing down ("pushing out") or tightly squeezing ("holding in") using the pelvic muscles."Anything that involves sex is erotic...but in erotic everything is in Read more:Erotic, Massage, Erotic Massage
A fantasy performer 2007-03-27 13:15:00 A fantasy performer is part entertainer, part counselor (someone to listen and accept) and part companion (someone to ease the loneliness). The job requires good acting skills, good listening skills, sensitivity, creativity, flexibility, and the ability to talk graphically about sex. Being something of a ham doesn't hurt either - that's where the performer part comes in." "The most important quality for a phone sex performer to possess, though, is an open mind - a lack of judgmentalism." "Herein lies the key to being a successful performer: being able to 'go with the call' wherever it leads. And that is not always predetermined at the beginning of the call." "This is a game of fantasy we're playing. We both know it, and reality has no place in it. Quite likely, I'm not telling the truth a lot of the time, and neither are my customers, but that's part of the game, part of what makes it work." "I never feel attacked or put down (or exalted) by the caller, because I know that it's Read more:Fantasy
Learning to Feel 2007-03-26 10:27:00 This skill consists of learning to value and sink into physical pleasure. It amounts to letting your world be the pleasurable sensations you are experiencing, rather than letting your world be intellectual thoughts or self-criticism.Find some time in your home or apartment when you won't be disturbed. Then, set up your space in the most pleasurable and relaxing way you can. Dim the lights and light candles, if you wish. Put on your favorite CD, and maybe burn some incense you enjoy. Create a place where you can sit in complete comfort. If you usually masturbate with a vibrator, plug it in and leave it in an accessible location.Now take a hot bath, hopefully with your bathroom also lit by candles. Try to let your entire awareness consist of feeling the hot water against your skin. Try to let your mind feel your entire body, and all of your skin, at once (this can be arousing in and of itself). After a while towel off, put on a bathrobe, and make your way back to the space you set up.Th
The Telephone Striptease 2007-03-26 10:17:00 This describes how to strip and tease and have sex with each other (in fantasy) during a telephone call with each other. If you're going to be doing a lot of phone sex with your lover, having speaker phones or headsets (so both your hands are free when you're on the phone) might be helpful. "If you find yourself becoming too aroused to continue talking, express your growing excitement through your breathing, sighing, and other passionate sounds. Remember, your voice is the only line of connection with your lover here, and you want to keep that line flowing with sexual energy.""We could probably all learn a lot more about the art of graphic phone sex by listening in on some of the conversations that take place on Phone Professionals lines." The classic way to do this is to write each other sexy, romantic, or comforting letters. This can be taken a step further by giving specific instructions on how and when to read the letter, and what to be doing while reading it. Sexy, romantic, Read more:Striptease
Erotic Massage Ten 2007-03-26 10:15:00 Conscious BreathingRegular, conscious breathing is a powerful way to enhance both relaxation massage and erotic massage. If the receiving partner forgets to breathe, the massaging partner can remind him or her by breathing rhythmically and audibly. Some partners find that synchronizing the breathing between the two of them leads to wonderful sensations. Just don't hyperventilate..."Anything that involves sex is erotic...but in erotic everything is in the mind..." Read more:Erotic, Massage, Erotic Massage
Erotic art can serve... 2007-03-26 10:09:00 Erotic art can serve as a harmless release for sexual desire. If one can satisfy one's urges for sex or sexual arousal through erotic art produced by someone very happy to pose for it rather than through having to seduce or take advantage of someone that one is really not otherwise interested in, is that not a better method! I would think a case could be made that erotic art could cut down the amount of psychologically damaging sex of a number of sorts by serving as a less harmful surrogate or outlet. Surely people become horny for no reason at all and at times that are inconvenient and unwanted. Is it not better for them to be able to get over that state through erotic art rather than through seduction or meaningless and potentially harmful casual sex. Even repulsive pornography can serve this function, since it often effectively eradicates an unwanted state of horniness in its own way; it is difficult to feel arousal and repugnance at the same time. Of course, it might be better if Read more:Erotic
Pornography 2007-03-24 07:50:00 Non-artistic Value of Erotic Art (and Even Pornography)Finally, I would like to comment about the non-artistic value of erotic art, even that which does not primarily give a message or capture something admirable or otherwise important of the human spirit or condition, but which primarily or only succeeds in causing sexual arousal, and is intentionally that way -- pornographic art. Apart from all the bad things pornography may do or cause, there are some good things it does that I never see stated anywhere in discussions of pornography. Some people would never learn much about sex at all, except from trial and error (if they learn from their errors) if it were not for pornography. Of course then, the better the pornography, or pornographic art, they learn from, the better things they learn, and conversely, the worse the pornography either as art or as sexual interaction, the worse the value of what is taught. Cold, clinical, scientific sex education is often not as inspiring or as educ
Erotic Massage Nine 2007-03-24 07:46:00 "Verbal and Non-Verbal Encouragement"It's helpful to encourage your partner with hot talk (possibly weaving together a verbal fantasy based on your partner's desires). Sexy complements, eye contact, etc. are also nice additions. Many sexual difficulties (especially for women, it seems) stem from worries: worrying that her partner is getting tired of pleasuring her, that she isn't coming fast enough, etc. Letting your receiving partner know verbally and non-verbally that you're actively enjoying giving her pleasure can be a powerful aphrodisiac for her. CocooningIt's nice to fold the sheet/blanket combination over your partner when you two are finished. This can be a time of profound peace and contentment together."Anything that involves sex is erotic...but in erotic everything is in the mind..." Read more:Erotic, Massage, Erotic Massage
Sweet Nothings 2007-03-24 07:44:00 This exercise begins with your partner lying in bed, face down. You should be sitting, or lying on your side, very close to him.... Think about all of those sexy words and sentences you've been aching to say to this man. If you need to refresh your memory, check your notebook before you start the exercise. Choose [a word] ... then lean over and whisper it in his ear. Proceed in this fashion through at least a dozen words. Now try some ... sentences.There is one very important requirement for this exercise: Your partner must remain silent and passive the entire time. Even if he thinks he is being helpful, unwelcome feedback can disrupt the mood and make you clam up in a hurry. He needs to stay quiet, and stay still, lying face-down on the bed."Anything that involves sex is erotic...but in erotic everything is in the mind..."
To create is like living what you're talking about... 2007-03-23 07:56:00 Finding or creating a well-done erotic movie or photograph or story that captures the way you feel about sex or love or a romantic and passionate time together is, I suspect, like finding or creating a well-wrought poem or quotation that perfectly spells out how you feel about anything. It is like a litte treasure that portrays or depicts exactly how you feel about something that is important to you and that may be important for you to be able to express. This is particularly true if you have wanted to express your feelings about this but have been unable to find the right words or the right ideas to do it. And finally, creation of any good art is a worthwhile endeavor for the artist. There is a satisfaction or joy, not only in having made something that is good, something that was fabricated essentially from nothing, or from an idea alone, but there is a joy and satisfaction in being totally involved and lost in the concentration of the creating process itself, even before you know wh
Erotic Massage Eight 2007-03-23 07:54:00 Another approach is to rotate your fingers inside her vaginal barrel with even pressure against all areas of it. Be aware that the shape of the vagina changes as a woman's arousal level increases. You'll probably notice the inner portion ballooning outwards during extreme arousal, which means that your fingers will need to rotate a little farther from center in order to maintain the same pressure on the vaginal walls. G-spot stimulation usually only feels good when the woman is aroused. "Vibrator" - Vibrators generally work best on or near the clitoris. If the vibration is too intense, switch to a lower speed or put a cloth between the vibrator and her clitoris. It's OK to let your partner hold the vibrator. It's also fun for a vibrator to be used clitorally at the same time vaginal penetration is being performed."Anything that involves sex is erotic...but in erotic everything is in the mind..." Read more:Erotic, Massage, Erotic Massage
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